“The world, as we perceive it, is our own invention.”
Heinz von Foerster, 1988.
The Process in Therapy
Therapy is an individual setting where every person is seen as unique in the way that they experience problems. In therapy we use a language which allows a conversation beyond and without the requirement of a mental health diagnosis.
You may experience low mood, difficulties in forming and maintaining relationships, reproductive issues, a complex relationship with food and body image, an uncertain fear of social situations, of perceived negative events, of failure or illness. Or you may feel an overwhelming sense of shame or confusion about gender identity or sexual orientation, a lacking sense of belonging or find yourself avoiding intimacy.
Therapy is often about questioning stories which we tell ourselves about who we are or who we should be. It can re-shape our sense of self following trauma. It is a place to talk about loss, about confusion in experiencing who we are or about a general lack of self-worth and the low feelings that this often brings about.
Every Person's Context is Unique
Your context is particular to you; family and upbringing, friendships, aspirations, expectations, the colour of your skin, gender, cultural background, class, sexual orientation. The distinct privileges and disadvantages everyone encounters matter in how our identity is shaped. In therapy, we untangle complex thoughts and feelings in conversation.
Change can be achieved in many ways; by
identifying what is important to you
feeling heard and accepted
taking agency of your decisions
rediscovering your own resilience
practicing different behaviour
shifting in how you perceive situations which are troublesome for you.